Gentleness saves a lot of heartache , it’s for free, grab it!
Has anyone here realizes that we (human beings) tend to imitate the emotions of people across from us? This is because of the mirror neurons in our brain that allow us to sympathize and reflect what other people feel.
For example, when I get upset with my husband he does the same thing back. If somebody is really depressed and you stay around that person long enough, you get depressed. When my daughter raises her voice to her younger brother , he does the same thing back. Then they raise their voice higher and pretty soon it’s escalated and emotions are out of control. It happens to all people big and small.
But the Bible clearly says, ” A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1 NIV).
This is a simple tip yet commonly overlooked, tell you it will save you a lot of heartache and conflict in your life: When other people raise their voice, lower yours- in your marriage, parenting, friendship, and even at work. That’s called strength under control.
Gentleness defuses conflict. It deescalates anger.
“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29 NIV
Let’s look for ways to practice gentleness , maybe start with it in a week and onwards. Make a chart or checklist post where you could see and remind you that you are doing a great job with gentleness. This week my family made a simple weekly chart on gentleness and everyone’s excited for the price at the end of the week.
When I started feeling upset when my husband got home late yesterday, the chart helped me control my emotions to a more understanding mode. Thus things turned out smoothly.
God bless everyone!